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logical and chronological
What are your options today?
We all have them. Mostly.
For every one thing, there are
many ways, many times a day.
There is any number of options,
but as soon as you number your
options, you limit your choices.
The world is full of options. . .
you don’t have to choose just one.
“Dad says I’ll understand when I grow up. He tells me that all the time now and I want to be big like him so that I can understand everything. It must be lovely to wake up in the morning and understand everything.”
You grow up thinking that your
Dad knows everything. It is not
until you are a grown up that
you learn — perhaps when you
are a father yourself — that Dads
can’t know everything.
They only try to understand.
We are all learning, whether
you are the father or the child.
Happy Father’s Day.
Gratitude flows two ways. It must.
For gratitude to be gratitude, it has to be given, as it is accepted; free of conditions; without demand; without expectations.
As an exchange, there needs be, at its most crucial point, equality. Both the giver and the receiver should, even if only for a moment, bask in the state of grace allowed, and furthered by, the humane act of giving.
Gratitude is ‘you are welcome’ as much as it is ‘thank you’.
Sadly, and often, in this give-and-take society, there is an imbalance of power. The provision of aid or assistance is viewed as strength, with the acceptance, or receiver, as weak. Charity — a worthy and necessary act — is boastfully promoted and endorsed. The ‘look at me’ or ‘look at us’ attitude removes the true shine from an otherwise generous act as it makes the giver more important than the need.
It’s pretty ugly out there. We, as humans, have continued to allow this to happen. Captains of industry, politicians, plumbers, and the powers that preach have continually deceived us. We have almost become pre-conditioned to accepting this conditioned eye-for-an-eye type of attitude of gratitude.
It should not be more difficult to understand, as it is to accept, gratitude.
We need to help each other, more. The spirit of giving should be fostered among us, but we end up asking too many questions. Even if just by questioning where any form of gratitude flows, we are suspicious. We look for ulterior motives and hidden reasons.
How do we get past the doubt, or the disingenuous, to not only show our thankfulness, but share the act and purpose bestowed upon us?
We, perhaps, need to be more thankful of what we’ve got and more gratified in how we share our place and purpose.
Indeed, as with the adage ‘the hand that gives is the hand that gathers meaning’, it must be more than exhibiting kindness towards others as a means of benefiting the self. We need to recognize the profound connection of the hand that gives and the hand that receives.
The benefits are shared, are equal, and are needed. There is a deeper meaning in not only accepting selflessly, but in giving graciously.
© 2019 j.g. lewis